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Debunking (Myths or Tips) By Erik R. on Friday, January 12, 2018

“Surely it is of great use to a young man, before he sets out for that country, full of mazes, windings, and turnings, to have at least a general map of it, made by some experienced traveler.”  

Lord Chesterfield to his son



I came across this principle when I was walking around Seattle listening to a podcast with entrepreneur Tai Lopez. On the show he discussed the concept, The Rule Of Three.  Put simply, you need to have someone below you who you can teach, someone you can compete against and most importantly a mentor to learn from.  The idea seemed interesting at the time, but I was too egotistical to put it into practice.  I knew competition was good, but I didn’t think I needed a mentor.


Years later, while reading Ego Is The Enemy by Ryan Holiday, and I came across the same principle again.  I was reading the book because I was preparing myself for my upcoming internship at Equinox in Downtown Los Angeles.  This was a big step in my life, the internship required 480 hours of unpaid work.  Plus, I was flying across the country, leaving my friends and family behind.  I was nervous, afraid and uncertain about the future. When I started the internship I did my best to apply the lessons I learned from the book.  I knew how to compete and teach others, but I struggled to be a student and have a mentor.  I thought I knew everything I needed to know.  I looked down at the other trainers around me and thought I was better than all of them.  My two bosses saw this attitude and didn’t hire me because of it.  So I had a decision to make, change my attitude and be a student or let my ego win and be jobless.


There were only two months left of my internship to get hired.  At that moment I decided that it was time to apply the rule of three to my life and find someone to teach me.  For the next two months I went out of my way to listen to both of my bosses and co-workers.  I became a sponge and applied all of their advice.  I listened more and talked less.  I became patient and waited for my opportunity.  I learned to put others before me first and did whatever I could to help the other trainers.  This wasn’t just one direction though, the trainers would return the favor and help me back in return.  Eventually I was hired and brought onto the team.  I owe it all to the rule of 3 and being a student to my bosses and the trainers around me.  For the first time in my life, I listened and let people tell me what to do. I took the advice they gave me and applied it.  Here’s the funny thing, it actually worked.


I can’t stress this one enough, finding a mentor or teacher to model is the key to a successful career.  Your goal should be to find someone who is successful in your field and mimic what they do.  Most likely someone has already achieved the thing you want, so take the time to find out who that person is and do exactly what they did, it is as simple as that.  This person can be online or in person.  It doesn’t have to be one or the other, you can have multiple mentors.  Some of my mentors are: Tim Ferriss, Eric Cressey, Rob Wolf, Mike Robertson, Marcus Aurelius and Joe Rogan.  I have never met any of them, but I have read their books and listened to their podcasts on a daily basis.  These podcasts, articles and books have transformed my life and turned me into the person I am today.  In today’s world, information and knowledge can be obtained in seconds.  There are no more excuses, you have the capability to do and be anything you want.  So don’t wait, get started right now.










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Erik R.
Erik Rokisky, founder of Rokisky Fitness, began his personal training career at the early age of 19. Since then he has gained numerous certifications and testimonials. The most prominent certification being his bachelor’s degree from the college of Health and Human Performance at East Carolina University. His methods for training are based on countless hours of research detailing nutrition, strength & conditioning, gymnastics, and kettlebells. Erik’s passion is in helping others obtain the realization they have the ability to grow stronger physically and mentally with commitment, hard work, and education.

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